scruffyharrison:

mrgolightly:

croatoan: sleepingwithmonsters:

Cynthia Nixon, forever Miranda and now starring in Wit on Broadway, spoke to the New York Times about her relationship with partner Christine Marinoni, and the controversy her opinion has stirred:

I gave a speech recently, an empowerment speech to a gay audience, and it included the line “I’ve been straight and I’ve been gay, and gay is better.’” And they tried to get me to change it, because they said it implies that homosexuality can be a choice. And for me, it is a choice. I understand that for many people it’s not, but for me it’s a choice, and you don’t get to define my gayness for me. A certain section of our community is very concerned that it not be seen as a choice, because if it’s a choice, then we could opt out. I say it doesn’t matter if we flew here or we swam here, it matters that we are here and we are one group and let us stop trying to make a litmus test for who is considered gay and who is not.

She then added:

Why can’t it be a choice? Why is that any less legitimate? It seems we’re just ceding this point to bigots who are demanding it, and I don’t think that they should define the terms of the debate. I also feel like people think I was walking around in a cloud and didn’t realize I was gay, which I find really offensive. I find it offensive to me, but I also find it offensive to all the men I’ve been out with.

PREACH.

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HOW IN THE MOTHERFUCK DO YOU SAY PREACH TO THIS? Are you fucking serious? She is obviously a bisexual woman, and saying that it’s a “choice” for everyone else just completely takes away from us actual gays. We so don’t fucking choose to be gay. If we could choose, don’t you think we would probably choose a cozy life free of harassment from bigots? I have just lost all respect for this woman. She is talking out of her fucking ass.

I guess the point that’s sadly being missed here is that she’s not saying it’s a choice for everyone.  She’s saying it was a choice for her.  And if one human being feels a certain way, you can’t even begin to deny that they do.  It has absolutely nothing to do with you, and asking somebody to change their feelings, or rather lie about them for the sake of a certain community doesn’t seem to be very fair.  Demanding that all people who consider themselves homosexual should state the same thought process, feelings and opinions on their sexuality in order to prove* that they’re gay feels a bit out of place for me.  And I suppose, if other people want to say preach to it, or find something they agree with in it, you also can’t deny that.  Sexuality might be a subject that feels heavier than others which is understandable, but just like when one person hates that new album and the other tells them “you’re wrong!  It’s the best thing to ever happen to music!”, there can’t be a right or wrong, we’re all just forming opinions and there can’t be a standard to live up to.

Y’know.  In my opinion.

*She is obviously a bisexual woman, and saying that it’s a “choice” for everyone else just completely takes away from us actual gays.

OK, I typed a huge response to this, but I deleted it because basically I just want to say that I agree with scruffyharrison. No one can decide what to label a person’s sexuality except the person themself. 

I want to add that I think she’s being really radical for saying this for a couple reasons. (1) She is not only facing discrimination from the bigots, but she is also now facing discrimination from the glbtq+ people who say that you cannot choose your sexuality; and (2) to me, saying, “I’m born this way, and I can’t change,” makes it sound like you want to change, while saying, “I chose this, and I don’t want to change,” is saying you like the way you are and you could change if you wanted to but you won’t and those bigots should just go fuck themselves. Saying it’s a chose is saying you chose to defy society’s norms and you are actively challenging those that want to “fix” you. It’s not that she is incapable of change; it’s that she would rather not. 

For the record, I would not choose “a cozy life free from harassment from bigots.” I would rather defy culture’s expectations and tell those bigots to fuck themselves. It shouldn’t matter whether you were born this way or chose it or whatever; what matters is that this is who you are, and you shouldn’t give a shit about people who want you to change. We are who we are, and we’re going to stay this way, whether you like it or not.